Guide for buying your first dildo


Buying your first dildo? If you are buying your first dildo then this is the very common question you face. This is a question that I am asked regularly and is not very easy to deal with. It was an article that had been in draft for a while and it was time to release it. Indeed, sometimes, depending on the case, the blog pages of some shops tell everything and anything. We often feel that the goal is to make you buy, whatever the product. However, the process of buying and choosing your first sex toy is quite important. Whether it is solo or two. We are full of questions and we are often lost to the avalanche of information that fall on us. It is not easy to know how to choose your first sex toy in these conditions. In addition, this first purchase will determine your appeal or not for these adult toys. We must therefore act with reflection.

How to choose your first sex toy: the generalities

Whether you are a single woman, a single man or a couple There will be some for everyone! So here’s how to choose your first sextoy with confidence!

The budget in the purchase of a sex toy

To know how to choose your first sex toy, you must already know his budget. Yes, I start right away with the subject who is angry. Yet this is not the first question we ask ourselves. But this is often the first certainty you will have. The kind of decision of the type ” I would not put more than X $ ” … Me first, towards my 17/18 years, my max budget was 100 $. I had bought the masturbator Tenga Flip Hole.

What I can tell you, and we’ll talk about it later, is that we should not hesitate to invest. And I insist on the word “invest”! If you limit your budget to not be disappointed, but the toy does not suit us.Too bad. So I think we have to take the problem upside down. Put the odds on your side to make it work. There is nothing worse than choosing your first sex toy with envy and being disappointed in the end. So this is where I come in, trying to help you find what suits you best. In addition, you start your search on a positive note, it’s still more fun!

The type of product you want

How to choose your first sextoy starts with the type of sex toy you want. It’s stupid, but it’s so. Ask yourself if you want a toy, an accessory, lingerie or cosmetics … It all depends on what you want to bring to yourself or your couple. We can direct his first purchase to lubricant for example. It is quite commendable and also more intelligent than buying without thinking a fuck machine 700 €. Learn to delimit the “radius” that you want to privilege. This will avoid getting lost in the meanders of the net or in your supermarket ass! It’s all about why you are here. You have to be efficient, not lose (too much) time and not leave empty-handed or disappointed. Ask yourself the question before throwing yourself into the arena.

How to choose your first sex toy with the choice of materials

It’s hard to know what toy you’re going to focus on. But, this can be done in two stages. We will therefore see what the materials to avoid are and the effects of “healthy” materials.

Latex a material to avoid

This is quite surprising because the majority of condoms I use are latex. Even if you know that I also use polyisoprene condoms. For example, with the Skyn Elite Manix . Do not throw away your latex hoods because they are very effective. On the other hand, latex sex toys have several disadvantages.

The latex is porous

First disadvantage and not least, the latex is porous. That is, it “absorbs” bacteria and germs. This makes the toy extremely difficult to clean and almost impossible to disinfect completely. Another point, the latex stains quickly and it is irrattrapable.

Latex Allergies

Second disadvantage that affects fewer people, allergies. Some people are allergic to latex, so avoid dying because of a toy! And last disadvantage, the effects of latex … The latex is not smooth. It tends to not slip and irritate the mucous membranes because of friction. You understand, the latex for condoms, it’s perfect but for sextoys, it’s quickly hell! By cons, for clothes, it’s just sublime!

The jelly, this material that must be removed

Jelly is a material that is still found regularly in loveshop. The trap is that toys made with this material are often cheap. And since you do not want to spend too much to be disappointed, you will fall back on it. This is the vicious circle par excellence! The jelly has many disadvantages that are much more convincing than those of latex.


First, the jelly contains (very often) phthalates. These are chemical and toxic components with many side effects. In particular on the fertility and the development of the fetus. It’s an endocrine disruptor. And, icing on the cake, it would be carcinogenic. So, if in doubt, turn to other substances! Moreover, I recommend you read the article on hazardous components in lubricants and cosmetics that will tell you a little more about endocrine disruptors.


Secondly, the jelly is porous and here we come back to the same problems as with latex. It allows the absorption of bacteria and germs. It’s not very sexy, you’ll agree. Last argument that will probably touch the most sensitive, the jelly, it stinks! Yes it stinks of plastic, oil, chemical. And I guess you do not want to put in the vagina or ass something that stinks? Of course not !

Silicon, the king of oil

It is, let’s say it, the material n ° 1 used for the toys intended for the pleasure of the adults. This material has a number of advantages. Silicone is guaranteed without phthalates. It is hypoallergenic, non-porous and cleans well enough. Level effects, the silicone is smooth, soft and slides very well. Sometimes it hangs a bit depending on the density and quality of the silicone. In addition, it is flexible. It is for these reasons that silicone is a must have materials for sex toys!

Several levels of silicon exist

However, there are several levels of silicone. Silicone is very average, but also very high quality! I think especially VixSkin, the special silicone used on Vixen dildos, like Vixen Johnny or Vixen Outlaw . This silicone is just incredibly awesome. It offers a texture close to the skin. But you also have very good silicone at Bad Dragon or the dildo Ozymandias de Petit Vice.

Silicon constraints

Nevertheless, silicone has some constraints. There are two that we meet frequently. It catches dust and you have to pay attention to the lubrication. Some silicones tend to catch dust. I think in particular of the sex toys Fun Factory brand, although recently, it is a little better on this point. But this point is not unacceptable. I tend to recommend cleaning after use (obviously) but also before. I take this opportunity to slip my article on cleaning sex toys.

Lubricant and silicon

Then, for lubrication, avoid silicone-based lubricants that can damage your toy. Do not panic, there are plenty of water-based lubricants of excellent quality. Nevertheless, some silicone-based lubricants may be compatible with silicone products. This requires a “patch test”. And as I’m nice, you can read all the reviews in lubricants site to guide you.

What size dildo to buy?

Another consideration when choosing your first dildo is the size. Dildos vary from tiny little things, to giant sticks which you couldn’t possibly get into your body. Which size should you buy?

For beginners, something on the shorter end is usually preferred. More experienced users might enjoy something much longer. Over time anyone can work up to nearly any size dildo, but it’s important not to be too ambitious too quickly.

What style dildo to buy?

You should also look at many of the other ways in which dildos are different. Some look completely artificial, just a long coloured stick. Others look like realistic dildos, mimicking the look of a penis.

For some, inserting a untextured, basic dildo can feel quite formulaic, so getting something that actually looks like a penis, and turns you on can make a massive difference.

Using a Dildo for the First Time

We’ll close out with a little advice on what to do once you’ve actually bought your first dildo, as when it finally arrives it might be a little intimidating.

The most important part is to make sure you have lube. Inserting any dildos without lubrication can be both difficult and painful.

First you’ll want to relax. Being tense makes inserting a dildo much more difficult. Find a comfortable position, and do whatever it takes to put yourself into a good state of mind.

Next lubricate everything thoroughly. You need to put lube on your dildo AND your butt or vagina to make sure everything is nice and slippery.

Then it comes to insertion. Start with just the tip, and gently push it in. You don’t have to rush to get the whole thing in. Just take it one step at a time, and then when you feel ready, move a little deeper!

With these tips on buying and using a dildo, you’re sure to have a great time whichever product you end up choosing!